Coping With The Unexpected
Where Does My Help Come From? My Help Comes from The Lord, Maker of Heaven & Earth. Psalm 121:1-2
While help and hope come from the Grace of God, there is something else we all have in common…unbearably, with no choice. It will bring us to our knees in agonizing pain. Our physical body becomes numb to the outside world. Our emotional state is in turmoil. We’ve never felt this knife in our heart as if it is a permanent fixture. We are unable to think of the days, months ahead. What is this unexpected disruption in our lives? It is losing a loved one and now we are left to pick up the pieces of our lives while going through the grieving process. We tell family and friends we are ok because we’re only expressing a natural response to hide behind the emotions we never expected to feel.
“The hardest time to learn about the process of grief is while you are in the midst of it,” says Dr. Norman H. Wright.
Making the choice to write on grief tugged on my heart until it was endlessly all around me the last few months. I have recently grieved with dear friends over their loss of a spouse, a son, new born, a father and now a mother. While writing this, my aunt is planning her husband’s unexpected memorial in a few days. The emotions of grieving never crossed my heart until I witnessed my own father take his last breath 18 months ago. While I continue to cope with my loss, I continually pray for my dearest friends and family to draw comfort and peace from God. I found out, like my dear friends, grief is likely the most difficult journey we will ever take.
Though you have made me see troubles; many and bitter, You will restore my life again; from the depth of the earth you will again bring me up. Psalm 71:20
Does our faith have anything to do with the way we grieve? God has made us so that we can somehow bear pain and sorrow and even tragedy. It is my intention to share with you what I didn’t expect and how I cope through the Word of God. Yes, cope. It is a continuous process unlike any other season. You feel as though the sails of your life have been ripped from your heart and you are no longer in motion. When trying to balance the feelings of pain and loss, while going forward with your everyday life, seems almost impossible. Your emotions not only hit hard, but they can also occur at unexpected moments, which make the impact seem even worse. Even though you may be in the depths of despair and feel that God is far away, now is the time to cling to whatever knowledge of Him you have. Today is the day to open your mind and heart for deeper understanding. In the Bible, God’s promises will also help you to endure unexpected, agonizing emotions. Do not be afraid of the shock that often comes in the early stages of grief. When you are grieving it seems impossible to get over grief, but what I do know is that with God’s help, you will get through it.
God is the source of our hope and joy. His love surrounds us and He is present in our lives right now…your story is just beginning to bring glory to God. Believe tomorrow will be better, help someone else through a painful process, serve others who are less fortunate, and make a difference in someone’s life. I can’t emphasis enough to attend a support group with fellow travelers on the journey through grief, getting involved in other lives that are suffering and living in His Word daily. Gradually, my agonizing heart turned to hope while joy returned slowly into my soul. Making every effort to pick up the pieces of your life does not wipe out the memory of a loved one. Allow the bittersweet memories to carve a holy place deep in your soul where you know your loved one will always be. I thank God every day there will be a beautiful light at the end of my journey allowing me to rejoice in the reunion with my loved ones in the Presence of His Holy Greatness! This vision gives me hope and keeps peace in my life…because I believe in my faith. It also reminds me my earthly father is in His Holy Presence. Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28
Many of the right things to do in life are the most difficult things to do. God always shows me the way and helps me act with kindness and love so my heart is at peace…that’s what it is all about. Trust me, your life will slowly be restored and while you may never get over grief, you will get through it. God is the only source of our hope and joy. Will you allow Him to help you on this journey?
The Bible says this world is not our final home, and we are “strangers and pilgrims on the earth.” Our true home is heaven. And that is where God’s path leads. – Billy Graham
May His Peace Be With You, Lynne